then she said...

"Do you know why I won't make a good wife? Because I don't do laundry."

Solid Movie Suggestion

Feast of Love starring Morgan Freeman, Greg Kinnear and a bunch of people I've never heard of.
If you missed this in the theaters in '07 - fellas this is a good one to bring home to your softy, cook some dinner and treat her to some couch cuddle time to show her you have a sensitive side.

You might want to have some tissues secretly hidden somewhere so that you can have them on the ready (maybe even for yourself).

Guys the cool thing about this romantic movie is that it is rated R for strong sexual content, nudity and language. Plus it is an ensemble piece so you have enough for your senses so that you don't get too emotional with the sappiness.

Ladies even though there may seem to be a lot of guy factor in this piece, the screen play was written by a woman so the storyline and situations remain plausible.

My opinion = one of the best chick flicks I've ever seen. Yes I do mean 'ever seen'. It had enough characters to keep me involved without becoming complicated. I actually began to 'feel' for the guy. And the ending made the story seem 'real' not just Hollywood which helped pull it all together. In a word - solid.

Book factor - the movie was based on the novel written by Charles Baxter of the same title.

Date Debate Introduction

I’m Melik. I’m an almost forty year old black guy♂ that spent his formative childhood years in Oscoda, MI. Then I slide into the Lansing, MI area and haven’t found my way out. Don’t get me wrong, I have had some great experiences here and have met some fantastically wonderful people. Some fleeting others are standing the test of time. I applaud the latter for I have realized I’m a moody so-and-so and can be extremely difficult to get along with, let alone befriend. I’ve never been married. I have no children and I’ve never been on the Maury Povich show. I did get an opportunity to be on the Judge Judy show but that didn’t come to pass. At some point I may speak on some aspects of that failed relationship which led to a call from that show.

I suppose this is a good place for my disclaimer. I’ve been ‘dating’ for more than twenty years which probably doesn’t make me an expert but I could be considered a professional (in jest please) and possibly ready for retirement. What I proclaim however is I have definitely learned some things that absolutely do not work for maintaining a continuously healthy relationship. I have learned some things that are positive and beneficial in successful relationships. I even have a few couples I know that have made it through the difficulties of staying together. In my writings you will probably find that I quote a lot of movies and songs. I don’t mean to, I don’t know from where it comes, it is just what I do. So like I said, I’m not an expert in keeping relationships together. Pretty much I’ve been a failure at it. So why the hell would I start a dating blog, column, offer suggestions, advice and work on a TV show about it all you ask. Well that is simple, I figure there are a lot of failures out there just like me and we could all use a little help. I hear things from both sides so I think it is about time to share, so maybe, just maybe someone can get something positive from my vast information gathering and they might find themselves in the win column. Woo, wouldn’t that be exciting! Or maybe I’m just a self-centered, egomaniac that is so delusional that I feel that people can learn from me. Insert evil laugh here. My writings will be about romantic relationships. There will be some discussion about friendships of the same and opposite gender. What? Men♂ and women♀ can be friends? No way! Some aspects of relationships are universal. There are underlying ideals that we can benefit from as much as there are universal behaviors, both positive and negative, that we could use a warning from. And there you have it – Date Debate as I know it.

Remember the possibilities of discussion are infinite. We humans keep running into each other many different ways every day. What surprises me is that I am still surprised at times. That just proves that you can never have seen it all and you will never know it all. What I’m trying to do is offer a deeper understanding of the beautiful yet sometimes tumultuous aspects of human interaction. As you can see I am not very succinct. I dribble on and on rambling almost pointlessly. I am working on that. Introduction ends here.

Thanks for your time,

~ Melik